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It Is Not Always You - Here's Why

     Have you ever been in a scenario where you were right but someone else says you are wrong?  What about a situation where a mistake is made and you are blamed for it even if you did not make the mistake?  If so, you are not alone.  It is incredibly frustrating to be in the right and have everyone else tell you otherwise, especially if the situation is never rectified.  It can drive a person mad and make them question every action they do out of fear of making mistakes.  I am here to say it is not always your fault, you are not always to blame, and you have nothing to fear.
     We often question our intelligence when mistakes are made or when receiving feedback from our peers and coworkers.  Remember, mistakes can be rectified and everyone has their own way of completing tasks.  You should not base your intelligence on a couple blunders or any comments made by those who work differently.  We are more intelligent than we realize and anything said regarding mistakes or your work ethic should be taken with a grain of salt. 
     People have the tendency to think they are always right, and when someone goes against what is believed, they often try to conform to that person.  Some people are so adamant that they often can convince other people to agree with them even if they are wrong.  It is important to not second guess yourself due to these situations.  Far too many begin to doubt their abilities due to others confusing and convincing them.  People also love to point out the mistakes of others.  There are instances where a mistake, usually small, is blown out of proportion so the one who discovered feels better about themselves.  They want to feel good by pointing out your flaws.  Making a mistake does not mean you are a bad worker or lazy, it means you are human.  Everyone makes mistakes, and anybody who tries to capitalize on your blunders is someone who should not be taken seriously.
     It is important to defend yourself in these situations or you will be walked all over.  People can and will make assumptions about you; your character, personality, work ethic, etc.  If left undefended, you will be falsely labeled.  Not only that but if people believe you are unable to defend yourself, they may try to pass the blame for mistakes you did not commit or take advantage of.  You cannot give these types of people the opportunity to slander or leech off of you when there is an opportunity to defend yourself.  Remember, you are not here to please anyone and deserve to be happy.  If you feel as if people are not treating you right or are continually bringing you down, there is always an opportunity to make a change.  It is not always your fault, sometimes the environment you are in is just too toxic and should be left behind.  If you believe you can make a change in this environment, then speak up and defend yourself.  Those who try to take advantage or slander will most likely shut down due to their cowardice.  I leave you with this, you are an intelligent individual who can do whatever they set their mind to.  Ignore those who create negativity to remain true to yourself.

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