Many people tend to focus more on the negative aspects of life than the positive ones. Personally, I believe societal norms to be the cause. Most of us are taught from a young age to be similar to other people and not to stray too far out of our comfort zone. People often ridicule others for being different or having different opinions. Most people also only care for themselves and seldom try to help those in need. Because humans are social creatures and have an overwhelming desire to be liked, we often concede to these societal norms and hide away our own thoughts and opinions. We then subconsciously task ourselves to do whatever we can to make other people like and respect us, whether it be by agreeing with them, acting a certain way, or enjoying similar things. The more we do this, the more insecure we feel because we have effectively taught ourselves that our identity is worth less than those around us, and from insecurity grows negativity. Of course, not everybody shares this story, and there are many confident people out there, but the majority of the world deals with self-esteem issues every day, and it is because of this negative mindset brought about through insecurity. To have a more positive mindset, we must be willing to break the cycle of wanting to be liked, conceding to societal norms, and insecurity. We need to start believing that there is nothing wrong with being unique, having a different opinion and the affection of others does not matter if they do not respect us for who we are.
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Instead of automatically assuming the worst in life, we have to be more apt to catching ourselves when we do so. Once we catch ourselves, we should then think of a more positive outlook to say or think about. Repeating this continuously will result in you actually believe it. Just like how some have trained their brains to automatically think negatively, a person can train their brain to automatically think positively. The reason why many people do not do this, however, is because they do not see instant results. They believe that doing it once or twice should be enough to see change, and when it does not they give up. It takes time to rewire your brain into thinking the complete opposite of how you normally have for years. So, not only should you be more aware of how you think but you should also expect some dedication.
We also have to think of life in a more optimistic manner. People think since they are not a big shot or doing something amazing with their lives that they are unimportant or uninteresting. Moreso, these same people often find themselves thinking towards the future rather than enjoying the present. In fact, they often see the present as mundane and are uninterested in partaking in it since the future in their mind is so much grander. We need to stop thinking this way and have the optimism to believe a life of simplicity with few life-changing moments is alright. We do not all have to be superman to enjoy life. Everybody has family, friends, and hobbies to enjoy. We have the tools necessary to carve out a great life for ourselves, we just have to put our grand future aside and see what is right in front of us.
The last piece of advice is to stop caring about what other people think. Do you know how many times I have worried about this in my life only to realize later I shouldn't have cared? Everyone is busy with their own lives to care about what you are doing, and if they chime in on your life then they clearly have problems. We should only focus on what we want in life rather than appease those who barely know us or criticize. Their opinion will not matter a year from now, and chances are you will not even remember the situation. Most importantly, what is the purpose of having people like you if they do not respect you for who you are? It seems like a lot of work to be someone you're not to have those you do not click with show you signs of affection. We have to stop thinking about having everyone like us, think of ourselves, and letting those who like us for who we are find us naturally. There is someone for everyone and that applies to friends and colleagues as well.
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