Despite what people might think in the moment, getting angry at someone you dislike, being violent, or showing hostility does more harm than good. We've all been there, a situation where we become so angry or annoyed that we just want to lash out. Subconsciously we think, "this is the right thing to do," and our anger takes over. I want you to remember a time this has happened and how it panned out. I am sure there are instances where it is justifiable to lash out, but more often than not people regret their actions almost immediately. We are left feeling foolish and our reputation takes a hit, the severity being dependent on the situation and the size of the blowup. Due to the consequences, people tell themselves they will be more aware and prevent similar occurrences from happening again. Unfortunately, not everybody learns from their mistakes. We forget our past actions far too quickly and often repeat mistakes. To raise awareness, tonight's blog is about maintaining self control through three effective methods. The hope is that you will take this information and use it to prevent further mistakes and to help control your anger when feeling provoked or agitated.
1. Deep and Controlled Breathing
Simple, yet effective, controlling your breathing is one of the least demanding ways to calm yourself down. You can do this at any point to make yourself feel better and it requires only a couple minutes of your time. In my opinion, there are two reasons why this is effective at maintaining self-control. First, when regulating your breathing, your heart rate will begin to lower. When we are anxious, angry, or stressed, our heart rate increases and adds to the problem, so returning your heart rate to normal levels is important when it comes to self-control. Second, and perhaps the most important, regulating our breathing requires our full attention, meaning we will stop thinking about what is bothering us. Even if it is only for a brief moment, getting your mind off of the situation will work wonders. It is like a brief vacation from reality, where, upon returning, we feel better equipped to handle the situation.
2. Make an Excuse to Walk Away
If a situation becomes too hot to handle and you are on the verge of exploding, make an excuse to leave the area. Sometimes the best thing to do is walk away from the situation to gather your thoughts, calm down, and return with a plan of action. You do not have to make a big scene when leaving either. All you have to do is say you need to use the rest room, feel light headed, or any other simple excuse. As a result, the people involved will most likely not be aware of your inner meltdown, and you can do whatever you can in secret to regain composure and control. Getting away from a situation is always a good idea when stressed, anxious, or angry.
3. Remember Past Actions
In the words of Winston Churchill, "Those who fail to learn from history are condemned to repeat it." We must be aware of our past actions in order to prevent similar actions from occurring. When you are provoked or agitated, one of the first things you should do is remember how you handled similar situations, their outcome, and how you felt. Keep these findings in mind. These reminders will go a long way in effecting your behavior throughout. While doing so, you will be training your brain to instinctively think of your past actions when similar situations occur. This means you will be less likely to blow up in the future because you will always be keeping in mind prior outcomes. Remember, the only way we can grow as people is by learning from our mistakes.
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Simple, yet effective, controlling your breathing is one of the least demanding ways to calm yourself down. You can do this at any point to make yourself feel better and it requires only a couple minutes of your time. In my opinion, there are two reasons why this is effective at maintaining self-control. First, when regulating your breathing, your heart rate will begin to lower. When we are anxious, angry, or stressed, our heart rate increases and adds to the problem, so returning your heart rate to normal levels is important when it comes to self-control. Second, and perhaps the most important, regulating our breathing requires our full attention, meaning we will stop thinking about what is bothering us. Even if it is only for a brief moment, getting your mind off of the situation will work wonders. It is like a brief vacation from reality, where, upon returning, we feel better equipped to handle the situation.
If a situation becomes too hot to handle and you are on the verge of exploding, make an excuse to leave the area. Sometimes the best thing to do is walk away from the situation to gather your thoughts, calm down, and return with a plan of action. You do not have to make a big scene when leaving either. All you have to do is say you need to use the rest room, feel light headed, or any other simple excuse. As a result, the people involved will most likely not be aware of your inner meltdown, and you can do whatever you can in secret to regain composure and control. Getting away from a situation is always a good idea when stressed, anxious, or angry.
In the words of Winston Churchill, "Those who fail to learn from history are condemned to repeat it." We must be aware of our past actions in order to prevent similar actions from occurring. When you are provoked or agitated, one of the first things you should do is remember how you handled similar situations, their outcome, and how you felt. Keep these findings in mind. These reminders will go a long way in effecting your behavior throughout. While doing so, you will be training your brain to instinctively think of your past actions when similar situations occur. This means you will be less likely to blow up in the future because you will always be keeping in mind prior outcomes. Remember, the only way we can grow as people is by learning from our mistakes.
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