True love is more than being with somebody, it is a mixture of positive and negative experiences. People forget this, and often times they give up on relationships for being too difficult, too much work, or they feel the person is too different. Of course, these reasons are justifiable in certain situations, but it would seem many people jump the gun too quick. People also tend to get into relationships for the sake of being in one, which is nothing but a waste of time. To prevent these situations, here are five ways to experience true love.
1. Do Not Search
People feel the need to search because they are either lonely or fearful of being alone. Many end up searching in the wrong places, or they find a person who is incompatible, dating them for the sake of being with someone. This usually ends in the couple breaking up, the person losing confidence, and believing they are unlovable. In reality, they are trying too hard to find companionship. This is why searching is a poor method when it comes to true love. True love is unpredictable, comes in many forms, and will usually blindside the person. When people search, they often create guidelines to follow; someone attractive, has money, is independent, etc. These guidelines are the bane of love’s existence. The person is being close-minded, searching in a specific niche rather than being open to the possibilities. So, rather than searching based on personal preference, stop looking and focus on something else. Work on personal projects, do well in school, find a great job, etc. One day, love will just find you, and it will not be based on preference or a desperate attempt to be with someone.
2. Focus on Yourself
I am a firm believer that you cannot love someone unless you love yourself first. When you focus on yourself, you have a better understanding of what you want in a partner, so when love raises its head, it is easier to tell if it is worth your time. Far too many throw themselves into relationships having the slightest idea who they are. They feel like a companion will bring them purpose, fill in a void they have within themselves, and be complete. We need to focus on ourselves, figure out who we are or who we want to be, and then find love. True love is not two halves making a whole, but two wholes coming together to form a partnership. These partners lean on each other’s shoulders from time to time, but they are independent of one another. Because of this, the relationship is not only less dramatic, but the couple understands each other, who they are as individuals, and have a more pleasant time together.
3. Never Settle
It is understandable that people want to find love, what is not is how they will settle for it. Settling for someone, just for the sake of being in a relationship, is worse than being alone. You are not forming a bond, truly enjoying the other person’s company. When someone settles, they are usually infatuated with the idea of the person, not the actual person. With their rose-colored glasses on, they see someone who is willing, not necessarily wanting. These types of relationships seldom last, often leading to the person asking why it ended. They may believe they are were not good enough or it was their fault. In reality, the relationship was never built on a solid foundation, dooming it to fail. True love is found when a person has confidence, knows what they are looking for in a partner, and takes action when they believe the love to be real. There is no doubt or desperation involved. Never settle, it will only leave a bad taste in your mouth when it comes to love.
4. Be Open to Receiving Love
We cannot experience true love if we are fearful of receiving it. Many people are fearful, because they may have had bad experiences in the past, are afraid of getting hurt, believe they are not attractive, etc. They continuously think negatively, growing their fears and shutting themselves out. When people do this, they are preventing themselves from finding true love. True love is about taking risks and putting yourself into a vulnerable position. We need to get out of our comfort zone to meet people, go on dates, and grow a relationship in order to determine its realness. We cannot do this if we expect failure or hide out of fear. Remember, most of the population feels awkward, nervous, and fearful when it comes to dating, and everyone has insecurities. When we look past our fears and insecurities and allow ourselves the opportunity to receive love, we will, eventually.
5. Real Love Is Not All Sunshine and Rainbows
When you have an argument and do not speak to each other, you are experiencing true love. When you forgive each other, laugh it off, and go back to being happy, that is true love as well. True love is a mixture of good times and bad. People often forget this, and many relationships fail as a result. They enjoy the good times but mistake the bad times with the other person being too much to handle. They then move onto the next person, repeating the process over and over again. It is important to understand, nobody is easy to handle. We all have good and bad qualities. They do not run away the minute times get tough. Instead, they fight, make up, and move on. You will never find a relationship that is all sunshine and rainbows, so be open-minded, expect to put in the effort, and push through the hard times. Relationships are worth the time and effort when you are willing to do so.
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1. Do Not Search
2. Focus on Yourself
I am a firm believer that you cannot love someone unless you love yourself first. When you focus on yourself, you have a better understanding of what you want in a partner, so when love raises its head, it is easier to tell if it is worth your time. Far too many throw themselves into relationships having the slightest idea who they are. They feel like a companion will bring them purpose, fill in a void they have within themselves, and be complete. We need to focus on ourselves, figure out who we are or who we want to be, and then find love. True love is not two halves making a whole, but two wholes coming together to form a partnership. These partners lean on each other’s shoulders from time to time, but they are independent of one another. Because of this, the relationship is not only less dramatic, but the couple understands each other, who they are as individuals, and have a more pleasant time together.3. Never Settle
4. Be Open to Receiving Love
We cannot experience true love if we are fearful of receiving it. Many people are fearful, because they may have had bad experiences in the past, are afraid of getting hurt, believe they are not attractive, etc. They continuously think negatively, growing their fears and shutting themselves out. When people do this, they are preventing themselves from finding true love. True love is about taking risks and putting yourself into a vulnerable position. We need to get out of our comfort zone to meet people, go on dates, and grow a relationship in order to determine its realness. We cannot do this if we expect failure or hide out of fear. Remember, most of the population feels awkward, nervous, and fearful when it comes to dating, and everyone has insecurities. When we look past our fears and insecurities and allow ourselves the opportunity to receive love, we will, eventually.5. Real Love Is Not All Sunshine and Rainbows
Do you have anything you would like to add? Have you experienced true love? Be sure to let me know in the comments!
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Today's Song of the Blog is "Tell Her You Love Her," by Echosmith.
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