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Life Advice Blog #15 - Personal Comfort

    Personal growth is more than taking on new experiences and learning new things, it is also about personal comfort.  If a person is not comfortable with themselves, then they will have a difficult time becoming the person they want to be or achieving their goals.  Being comfortable is so freeing and life changing that it is surprising that many people do not practice it.  They are afraid of others to the point where they believe they need to appease them rather than be themselves.  However, those who are successful do not do this and enjoy sharing their own thoughts and opinions.  Personally, I have three methods to being more comfortable in life; speaking freely, positivity, and being yourself.


     Feeling comfortable means allowing yourself to speak freely.  It is important to speak your mind when the time is right.  Many people do not like speaking their mind, because they are afraid of what others will think.  However, this should not prevent you from sharing your own thoughts or opinions. Everybody has something to bring to the table, including yourself.  An idea you may think is horrible may end up being a great one in the eyes of others.  This will not only help you be more comfortable with yourself, but also increases the chance of becoming successful.  People who are not afraid to speak their mind move far in life.


     Being positive about the current situation also provides comfort.  Many people discount the importance of smiling and telling yourself “this is ok.”  However, this has been proven to boost your mood and allow you to be more confident during awkward situations.  Something as simple as a smile can help boost your mood when you are depressed.  It will not happen immediately, but if you continue practicing, and remain consistent, you will see a drastic difference.


     The idea of being yourself is a great way to feel more comfortable.  The problem is that people say “be yourself” but do not fully explain what that means.  Being yourself means acting the way you would act alone or with your family.  If you are a quiet person, do not feel the need to speak. If you are tired, you do not need to act as if you are happy and ready to party.  The reason people have trouble being themselves is because they are afraid to be rejected by their peers.  However, the whole goal of a relationship is to love/respect the person for who they are and how they act.  So, if you be yourself, and people reject you for it, then they were never worthy of your time.  Eventually, you will find people who like you for who you truly are.  You will have made new relationships with those who do not judge you for your true self.


     There are many successful people who have accomplished their goals because they are comfortable with themselves.  If you are someone who struggles with personal comfort, I encourage you try the three methods I have provided.  What have you got to lose?  The worst case scenario is that the methods do not work.  The best case scenario is that your life changes for the better.  The more comfortable you are with yourself, the better you will feel and the happier you will be in life.  I wish you luck in your future growth.

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