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The Importance of Closure

     Everyone experiences hardship, whether it be a breakup, loss of a loved one, or having to deal with other difficult changes.  These experiences can be both physically and mentally exhausting, especially when they have not been fully resolved.  In order to move on from certain situations, closure is needed.  Closure is the act of wrapping something up, receiving answers to questions, and/or letting something go.  By doing so, the person is able to leave the past in the past and move forward.  Unfortunately, there are many instances where closure takes a while or is never obtained.  This can result in unnecessary stress, anxiety, or sadness.  People then live their lives in the past, continuously thinking about the situation, never truly moving on.  We need closure to live calmly, accept the past, and focus on our future.
     Some may see closure as a luxury.  These people often believe that closure is unattainable due to certain circumstances preventing them from reaching it.  However, closure is only unattainable when the person gives up on searching.  There is always a way to find closure but it is not always easy.  This can scare people, as when things are not easy to obtain, they often give up quickly.  To those who feel this way, is living a life asking yourself the same questions over and over really living?  Why put yourself through that torture when there may be a way to stop it?  Without closure, we are left to ponder when we should be living our lives to the fullest.  So, it seems like putting in the extra effort is worth it long-term.
     I believe some people give up on finding closure due to the difficulties of facing their problems head-on.  Some cannot find closure by simply accepting what happened.  Rather, they need to be coerced, either by themselves or others, into doing so through various methods.  The best way is by focusing on the future.  For example, if a loved one passes away, some may find it difficult to find closure by accepting the death head-on.  Because they do not accept death directly, they never find peace and are left to wallow.  Instead, the person could find closure by telling themselves they will keep their loved one’s memory alive.  By doing so, they can accept the reality of the situation by focusing on future plans and projects.  This logic can be applied to any difficult situation you may be going through; a breakup, failure, being let go at a job, etc.  Rather than accepting the situation directly, find other ways to accept it, focus on these plans, and move forward.
     Closure can give you the satisfaction of acceptance.  Rather than dwell on the past, you can look towards the future with a smile.  We all deserve to be happy, but we cannot do that while we hold the past over our heads.  Closure gives us the opportunity to get back on track, allowing ourselves to move on and not live in the past.  There is no reason not to search for closure every which way.  Never tell yourself that you are not worthy or are unable to find closure because there is always a way.  Work hard if you have to, surround yourself with people who can help, and do what you can to be happy again.
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