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Kill Them with Kindness - Here's Why

     If we got along with everybody, our lives would be much easier, and the world would be a different place.  Unfortunately, it is a fact of life that you neither are liked by everybody nor like everyone yourself.  Most people have at least one person in their lives that they can only tolerate, whether it be a family member, acquaintance, or co-worker.  Most of the time, this disliking stems from disagreeing with a particular aspect of the person; personality, actions, speech, etc.  Whatever the case, you may have experienced a moment where lashing out at the person seemed like a good idea.  It would certainly release some bottled emotions but is it worth it in the long term?
     In my opinion, getting angry with someone you dislike does nothing to solve the problem.  In fact, the situation gets worse because the person then realizes how you feel.  This can create tension and an awkward environment, especially in work settings.  More so, some people often feel a sense of guilt after yelling at somebody despite their distaste towards them.  Being intentionally hurtful to another human being, despite one’s own opinion, can leave a feeling of sadness and self-disappointment.  Deep down we understand everybody deserves to be treated the same as how we want to be treated, even if people do not always return the favor.
     Also, keep in mind that nobody knows what another is going through.  We are all fighting battles nobody knows about.  Someone may seem rude on the outside, but ask yourself why that is.  What exactly is causing this type of behavior?  The person could be struggling in their personal lives or may have gone through hard times in the past.  Your perception of that person may not be accurate if this is the case.  Lashing out would mean hurting someone who is already in pain, and you are then left to deal with the guilt.  So, it is best to avoid this situation altogether by being kind and courteous.  Save yourself the feeling of guilt by never judging a book by its cover.  Remember, we all have scars, and getting angry over the byproduct of another’s does nothing to change that.
     Overall, if not for them, do it for yourself.  Why be a mean person when you have the opportunity to be caring?  We feel good about ourselves when we are kind to others.  Getting angry often leads to self-harm in the long run.  You ruin your own reputation, create awkward situations, and show a lack of self-control.  Not only that but in most cases, you look like the bad guy, especially when you get angry at someone going through something.  So, be kind and make yourself and others feel good.  Despite what they may say or do, in most cases is not viable or necessary to swing back.  Let it go, walk away, take a deep breath, and remember who you are.  You are a kind and understanding individual, even to those who drive you mad.

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