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The Positives of Past Relationships

     Many people believe when a relationship does not work out, the person they associated with was a waste of time.  Those who deceive, lie, cheat, or cause us grief were once people we thought of as friends, family, and trusted companions.  Then, one day, we realize they were not worth our time, or they do something to prove it themselves, but that does not mean they were a waste of time.  The fact of the matter is, everyone we meet teaches us something; patience, honesty, will, integrity, determination, loyalty, etc.  Although the person may not have been worthwhile in the long-term, what they taught us certainly is.  People are not a waste of time, because they teach us valuable life experiences to take into consideration for the future.  We mature, become stronger, and learn more about ourselves when we go through heartache, heartbreak, or loss.

       Past relationships help us understand what we do and do not want in a partner, and can help in finding happiness with someone who has the traits we desire.  If we did not go through these difficult times, we would not know how to find true happiness later in life.  Those who have experienced heartache, heartbreak, or loss are more confident when searching for a partner.  They have already taken a shot in the dark with previous partners and can see clearer.  Therefore, when they do find someone they are interested in, they are more likely to know whether or not they are compatible.

     Relationship problems also aid in the formation of thick skin.  This allows the person to let go of the past, as well as their previous partner, much easier.  They will be focused more on what they are searching for rather than what they have lost.  Truthfully, what happened in the past is a stepping stone to finding true happiness, and if it does not work out, then it was never meant to be the solid ground across the river.  What happens to us today will be the foundation for our future accomplishments, including relationships.  Along our journey, if things do not work out with a particular person, we move on swiftly, allowing ourselves to focus on our future happiness and appreciating the experience we gained throughout the relationship's lifespan.  So, never give up, and always appreciate the relationships of the past, because they have shaped you into the person you are today.

     We all deserve happiness, but we cannot reach true happiness without failure.  If we were to always win, then we would never know when to improve, what we truly want, or how to obtain it.  Past relationships are not a waste of time, they are natural experiences which give us a better understanding of life and ourselves.  We learn from our mistakes, and we use this knowledge to find someone better.  Do not think of your past as a waste of time, because had the past not happened, you would not be able to find the person you were meant to be with.

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